Roger, funny that you mention including writing in the contract. I actually included that we would be willing to include some clauses (including samples) in our contract indicating precautions we would take with the files, and that we would agree to not display any edited versions publicly, and that we understood that RAW files do not represent a "finished product".
Sarah (my fiancee) went to a Bridal Show today with her mom, so I had her ask the RAW question to some of the photographers with whom she met. While I don't know exactly how many photographers she spoke with, she said that several said they'd provide the RAW files--both expensive photographers and inexpensive ones. Only one said there would be an additional charge ($695).
I'm glad we'll be able to find a photographer who will do this. While I understand that many photographers make money off of the prints, I think it's a bit of an antiquated way of doing business to not provide any digital copies. Just as photography has changed from film to digital, so have the ways in which people store their images. While I like having tangible images, I look at the photographs on my computer far more than anywhere else (including "coffee table albums"), and I would not be comfortable not having electronic versions of our photos. I know that historically, things have been done a certain way, and it's hard for to buck the trend, but I think with our society's infatuation with the digital medium, photographers who do not release digital copies--even for an additional fee--will ultimately be doing themselves a disservice.
I understand the photographer's desire for others to not later manipulate the images to distort their work. One photographer I contacted said they want their art portrayed in a certain way, from beginning of the wedding to end as that is how they present their "artistic story". However, and this may be a result of the popular bridzilla ideology these days (but it's still the ideology), the wedding day is about us. Not the photographer. It may be their artistic spin put on the images, but ultimately, they are not being hired because of their artistic vision (at least, not by me), they are being hired because they will do a great job capturing OUR day (in an artistic way, perhaps).
I do not mean to be degrading wedding photographers with this, I just think that the focus of some wedding photographers should be on the desires of their clients. I strongly believe that photography is art, but I think there are different purposes for photography, as well. I think when it comes to things that are clearly only art (such as those awesome Castle shots of Tim's that merge day/night, etc.) the client should have absolutely no say in the content, etc. However, when the primary purpose of the work is to capture a client's experience, I think it is less about the art of photography, and much more about the client.Â